Dating at my age..

The title has such a mystery to it doesn’t it?? Okay, so I absolutely admit I have been reading books on dating! No joke, I am so open about it. It has been over 20 years since I have been “out” there. Wow! There is a game to play, and it is exhausting!

Firstly, everything is through texting. Okay, seriously? I have been texting, for weeks with one in particular. I use all the quips, sass, flirtatious words, and it is like he has read the same books!! To get a man to ask a girl out is very much a competition these days. Only the slyest survive and actually make it to a face-to-face date.

I have pulled out all the stops, took my time to reply, so carefully, being positive, cute, flirty, available, but not too available.. even then this particular guy still would not commit to a when and where.

Women are now thinking, okay, why keep trying? Honestly once you’re in it, you kind of want to win. Whether or not this date actually happens, I want to say I tried! And there it is! I am playing the great game. He has now won, because I am chasing. But my value- meet me in person and find out!!

I sought some male advice as well. I was not kidding in my earlier comment. My male friend gave me an example of how he “hooked” his now girlfriend. It so reminded me of the back and forth texting I now find myself in.

I equate dating today like the housing market. Sometimes it’s a buyers’ market-other times a sellers’ market. Well ladies, it is the men’s turn! It is as if they test us with every comment, emoji & blunt question.

I am going to chalk all this experience up to practice. I want a man to be a man. I just want one to lead so I can be feminine. Having to “work” for it is exhausting. I can’t say certain things, or I’m not fun, can’t make certain comments because them I’m not interesting, if I’m too interesting- heck he may get the wrong idea. And I am not that girl!

These so-called men on dating apps, say they don’t like games, ha! They want us to play, fight for them, and act as if we are grateful. Wasn’t evolution the other way around? Males fought for the right woman??

At my age, I am not looking to breed. I am not looking for a man to be my savior, or Finacial backbone. Guys- I just want to get dressed up and laugh, flirt, feel like a woman for a few hours! Is that really too much to ask for?

Just saying, fellas- do not claim to be looking for that one”, do not say you want the girl who has it all figured out, can be a wife, mom, and intelligent, sassy, etc. just fess up- you want a woman to show off in society and be a porn star in the bedroom. Well, guess what? Even a girl next door type like me has all that, and I can cook, bake, raise the kids too! I will even make you look good in front of your friends.

Just saying… knock yourselves off that pedestal. Take a girl out, sense, smile, touch and feel the date. Quit trying to rate us by texts. Maybe, just maybe you will find what you say you are looking for..